We here at 505love want you to always be safe and stay safe. We made this page for the convenience and safety of all of our members and future users.
Sadly, not every person in the online world is well-intentioned, and this fact can be doubly painful when you’ve just made yourself vulnerable in the search for romance and intimate connection. The good news is that, as it is in real life, these maladjusted individuals are only a small minority of the online population. However, they do exist, and if you’re going to date or hook up IRL (in real life) with someone you've met in the digital universe, you need to be aware of this fact and take some basic precautions.
The following suggestions will not, of course, guarantee your physical and emotional safety. They will, however, help to protect you if you follow them.
- Meet in a public place. Even if your goal is a quick hookup, your first meeting should take place at a coffee shop, museum, café, park, or some other public venue. This gives you time to get to know a person at least a little bit, so you can identify obvious red flags before agreeing to meet in a more private setting.
- Tell your friends or family what you’re doing. Make sure at least one friend or family member knows who you are meeting, where, and when. Arrange to check in with that person at least once during your date. You might even want to have some friends hanging out wherever it is you’ve decided to meet, discreetly keeping an eye on things from across the room.
- Pay your own way. If the other person wants money or gifts from you, or wants to shower you with money or gifts, walk away. That person does not love you or even care about you. Sex/love in exchange for money/gifts is not romance, it’s prostitution. If you are unsure about a person’s sincerity, ask a trusted friend or family member what they think before you move forward.
- Dress appropriately. If you’re seeking long-term romance, leave the super-sexy outfit in your closet. Yes, you want to make sure the other person finds you attractive, but sending an overtly sexual message may scare a serious suitor away, as that suitor might think you are only interested in a hookup. Of course, if you’re meeting solely for sex, feel free to display your assets.
- Trust your instincts. This is the most important safety tip of all. If a situation doesn’t feel right to you for any reason at all, get out. You are under no obligation to continue a date. Ever. Maybe the issue is something innocuous, maybe not. Either way, if the situation feels uncomfortable, then the other person is not what you’re looking for.
The good news is that the vast majority of people you find online are sincere in their desire to meet a long-term partner, a casual sex partner, or a friend. So, provided you take some simple steps to protect yourself, meeting an online acquaintance IRL is generally no more dangerous than spending time with a person you met some other way.
Millions of Americans use dating sites, social networking sites, and chat rooms to meet people. And many forge successful relationships. But scammers also use these sites to meet potential victims. They create fake profiles to build online relationships, and eventually convince people to send money in the name of love. Some even make wedding plans before disappearing with the money.
An online love interest who asks for money is almost certainly a scam artist.
How to Recognize a Scam Artist
The relationship may not be what you think, especially if your sweetheart:
- wants to leave the dating site immediately and use personal email or IM
- claims love in a heartbeat
- claims to be from the U.S., but is traveling or working overseas
- plans to visit, but is prevented by a traumatic event or a business deal gone sour
Scammers also like to say they’re out of the country for business or military service.
What You Can Do About It
You may lose your heart, but you don’t have to lose your shirt, too. Don’t wire money to cover:
- medical emergencies
- hotel bills
- hospital bills for a child or other relative
- visas or other official documents
- or losses from a temporary financial setback
Don’t send money to tide someone over after a mugging or robbery, and don’t do anyone a favor by making an online purchase or forwarding a package to another country. One request leads to another, and delays and disappointments will follow. In the end, the money will be gone along with the person you thought you knew.
Report relationship scams to:
Protect Your Personal Information
Never give personal information such as your social security number, credit card number or bank information, or your work or home address to people you don’t know or haven’t met in person.
Report All Suspicious Behavior
- Asking you for money or donations.
- Requesting photographs.
- Minors using the platform.
- Members sending harassing or offensive messages or emails.
- Members behaving inappropriately during or after meeting in person.
- Fraudulent registration or profiles.
- Spam or solicitation, such as invitations to call 1-900 numbers or attempts to sell products or service. Please help us keep you and other users safe by contacting us at: Support@505love.com